Cheating may seem like a good idea in the moment, when you’re angry and betrayed. However, once you’ve cooled down a bit, it will probably make less sense.
Revenge cheating is an impulsive reaction to infidelity and usually ends badly for the person doing it. Here are a few reasons why you shouldn’t do it.
1. They don’t want to be with you anymore
When a woman cheats out of revenge, she’s probably not in the relationship for the long haul. If she discovers that the fling isn’t what she thought it would be, or if she’s feeling increasingly unhappy with her partner, the chances are high that she’ll want to get out of the marriage altogether.
She may even decide to hurt her partner in other ways – for example, by hurting their reputation, or taking away their money. This type of revenge might help make them feel better for a short while, but it won’t heal their wounds and it will only serve to make them resentful and bitter.
Revenge cheating is never justified, no matter what happened in the past. It’s also not healthy for you, either. Try to focus on grieving, healing and letting go instead of acting out on your emotions. If you need support, try a therapy or counseling session with a therapist who can help you process the situation and find more constructive ways to cope.
2. They’re prone to mood swings
Women are prone to mood swings and, unfortunately, they can be at their most emotional during times of betrayal. They may feel like they need to “revenge” by cheating themselves.
They may also feel compelled to cheat because they think it’ll make them feel better about themselves. They might want to give their partner a “taste of their own medicine.”
Cheating to get revenge is never worth it. It’ll only leave a bitter taste in your mouth and it won’t make you feel any better. It’ll also strain your relationship, especially if you have children.
3. They’re not committed to the future of the relationship
It’s often said that two wrongs don’t make a right, but even so, revenge cheating can still cause a lot of damage. Sleeping with someone just to hurt your partner will only distress the fabric of your relationship more. It will also show them that you’re not committed to your future together, which can be a huge turnoff for any kind of reconciliation.
Besides, your revenge cheating might not be as effective as you think. For example, they might see your actions as a betrayal, and this could damage their trust in you forever.
If you’re thinking of cheating on your partner, take a step back and ask yourself why you want to do it. It might sound simple – they cheat, you cheat. However, people are not machines and there are a lot of complexities involved. If you can’t commit to your relationship, break up instead of taking out another person to make things even.
4. They’re cheating on you
Some women cheat because they’re unable to meet their sexual or emotional needs through their partner. In fact, according to a survey on the website Illicit Encounters, 12% of those who cheat report that they did so as revenge for being cheated on.
These types of women often feel that their partner belittles, abuses, or ignores them, leaving them emotionally starved and driving them to seek fulfillment elsewhere. Whether it’s cash, romance, physical attention, or power, they want more than what they have and are willing to risk their relationship for it.
The problem is, this type of behavior never fixes a relationship. In fact, it only makes things worse. Regardless of why your partner cheated, finding a therapist who specializes in relationship issues can help you work through the issue and either repair the damage or let it go. The key is to focus on healing yourself, not getting your revenge.